Have you ever had the feeling that your mate isn’t invested in the relationship 100% with you? We’ll, if your answer is yes, keep reading.
Many people with relationship problems go through such phases. Your partner may not be communicating openly with you. They may not be upfront with you about how they really feel and you may also have secrets of your own. Such communication problems are a recipe for disaster in any relationship since they create suspicion and harbor resentment. This, in turn, takes away from the affection and attraction you should be feeling toward each other.
It’s also important to note that most people don’t like confronting their partners in fear of looking insecure or mistrusting. Also, many people aren’t sure if they are just being paranoid or if they are justified to feel what they feel.
This leads us to a very important question; how do you know when things aren’t working out in your relationship? To answer this question, below are 4 signs to look for.
1. Your partner’s attentiveness towards you has slacked
This is by far one of the most obvious signs that your relationship is headed for doom. If your partner used to shower you with compliments and did things to make you feel special but they don’t do it anymore, it’s a clear sign they have shifted their energy and focus to something or someone else.
2. You’re always the one taking initiative
This is another clear sign of a doomed relationship. If both of you used to be eager to see each other, spend time together, do things for each other etc., and you’re currently the one taking initiative all the time, your relationship is clearly taking a dead-end turn. A cheating spouse or a spouse who is bored in the relationship will never go out of the way for you. When they stop paying attention to you, the initiative also goes with it.
3. Your partner seems to be more distracted than usual when you are together
Also, if the number of phone calls and text messages your partner is receiving has increased, then your relationship may very well be headed for doom. Phone calls and texts that were once ignored when both of you were alone together are now extremely urgent. Your partner’s attention may have shifted to their phone, tablet, or another gadget. If they seem more interested in checking their inbox, then spending meaningful one-on-one time with you, then clearly a disconnect is taking place.
4. Your partner’s whereabouts are questionable most of the time
If you can’t tell where your partner is most of the time or their explanations don’t add up, then you have a valid reason to be concerned. Before most breakups, spouses/partners tend to be uncooperative. Your spouse/partner may stop telling you where they are or get defensive when you ask. They may even resort to lying simply because they know you wouldn’t be happy about their escapades especially if they involve things you wouldn’t normally do in a relationship.
Above are some of the things you should look out for when you want to know for sure if your partner or spouse isn’t as vested as you are in the relationship. Trust your gut if you feel like something is off. It probably is.