You are sitting idly at the bar waiting for your drink. You suddenly turn your head and lock eyes with the incredibly attractive person who just walked in the door.
Fireworks start to explode and time seems to stop. You gaze at each other for what seems like an eternity, cementing the instant connection the two of you have.
You turn your head away from the mesmerizing gaze to think about something clever to say, but before you know it, the person is sitting next to you and breaks the ice with a question.
You instantly smile and start a conversation. In those few minutes of chatting with this person, you realize that both of you are interested in each other. But then your drink arrives and your table of friends starts to call you over – making you wish you went out by yourself tonight.
So now what?
You don’t want to say goodbye right away as you obviously want to get this person’s number. You awkwardly say a few things and voila! Both of you exchange numbers and the anticipation of a romantic prospect begins.
Obey The Law of Seduction
You’re probably a seasoned dater or flirt when it comes to face to face conversations, but in today’s age, the text message has become a make-or-break in the world of dating.
When ending a text conversation, keep in mind the most basic law of seduction: keep the person wanting more.
Nothing works more in keeping a person interested than to keep them guessing. This means after a few flirty and clever messages, abruptly end the conversation before things get boring.
Most people wait too long to end text conversations. The best time to end one isn’t when things start to die down and get boring, but rather right at the peak of the conversation when things are going really, really good.
For example, maybe you just said something really funny and the other person responded with, “OMG! I’m LMAO right now! Seriously, I’m almost in tears!” That’s actually an excellent time to end the conversation if you want to maximize attraction.
Why? Because at that very moment, the other person is having a really great time talking to you. You’ve ramped up the attraction, and they want to keep talking to you.
When you suddenly end the conversation, it leaves them wanting more and they’re going to spend the rest of the night thinking about you and waiting eagerly for your next text.
If you wait until the conversation gets slow and boring, then all the attraction dies with it.
If you’re at a loss for ideas about how to quickly end the conversation without sounding rude, here are 5 text exit strategies that really work:
End the conversation by texting: XOXO.
It’s a universal and symbolic way of saying hugs and kisses. Ending a message with XOXO shows them you are interested and comfortable enough around them to send over graphic hugs and kisses without coming across too strong or too lovey dovey.
2. TTYL, I’m Driving
Whether you are or you’re not driving, texting the person “TTYL, I’m Driving,” will definitely end the conversation on a positive note.
TTYL stands for “Talk to you later,” and you’ll definitely leave the other person guessing what “Later” means – Once you’ve stopped driving? Once you get home? Sometime tomorrow?
And the fact that texting while driving is not only illegal, but seriously dangerous, will definitely give the other person the right message that he or she doesn’t need to reply back. Everyone with any common sense will understand why you can’t text back if you’re driving.
3. Ooops, Someone Just Popped In
When you don’t want to answer the person’s question or you simply want to end the conversation, texting “Someone just popped in,” tells them that you’re busy with your immediate surroundings and have stuff going on. It shows that you have a life.
The main thought of you giving someone else your undivided attention will certainly stir their curiosity – “Is it a boy or girl?;” “Is it an ex?;” “Or a potential lover?” Never tell them who it is – making them even more curious than they already are.
4. That’s It For Now
When the other person is asking you lots of questions, stop the conversation by being a little tease and text: “Sorry, but that’s all you’re getting for now.” Put a wink behind it so they know you’re not mad and are being playful.
Not answering their every question will give you an air of mystery and exclusivity – there’s always power in silence.
But don’t be a prude by saying no for good – tease the other person by giving them a clue to your answer to their question. When you close the door, leave a window open.
5. Got To Go, But What do You Think About…?
End the conversation with a question. This will certainly make the other person answer your question, but without making you feel guilty if you don’t reply back.
This will leave the other person hanging and will keep them looking at their phone to see if you’ve responded since they’re already invested in the conversation. You can opt to reply after work, or at the end of the day, but don’t let days go by without answering back.
Ending a text conversation that’s becoming dull or leading nowhere is an excellent idea to keep the chemistry alive. These are also great tips for when you’re not in the mood, or if you’re tired and sleepy.
Before you continue the conversation for the sake of exchanging messages, use these exit strategies to keep that person aching for more, and keep the fire of curiosity burning.